When Is "It" Enough For Black Women?
What is “it” exactly? Well, it could be a number of things. As an ambitious woman, it could be finances, career goals, family, or life in general. We are told time and time again growing up that we have to work twice as hard just to get half of what they have.
Once we do achieve a certain amount of success, is it enough to sustain us? Are we truly satisfied with what we’ve accomplished? I can’t speak for everyone but I know for myself that I’m no where near finished. With each accomplishment, I can hear that small voice in the back of my head saying “This ain’t it, sis. You can do a lot better.”
I have to be honest, I’m really tired these days. Work is busier then ever, my apartment complex is crumbling around me, and I’m on the cusp of making a major adult decision. On top of everything else, we have to make sure this site stays current for our wonderful readers. Most days when I get off work, all I want to do is lay on the couch and eat snacks. How else is a girl supposed to relax? Even in those quiet moments, I often wonder if any of this worth it. I could just stop chasing so many things and just be happy with what I have. Life would be a lot easier. Didn’t take long for those thoughts to disappear because last month, Beyoncé dropped her documentary “Homecoming'“ based off her epic Coachella performance last year. My entire perspective on work ethic and drive changed.
Yes, Casey, Eve, and I are members of the Beyhive and will stan for anything she does but her Netflix special helped me gain a whole new level of respect for her. After having twins, she went on to practice for 8 months all while trying to get in shape and be a mother to her three children. She even made sure to do the proper research on HBCU’s to give us a historical performance.
Hear I am complaining about ten emails in my inbox while Beyoncé is breastfeeding and learning an 8 count at the same time. How dare I? Grant it, I’m not Beyoncé but as successful as she is, she’s still not satisfied and is constantly thinking of her next big career move. I don’t have any excuses and if Beyoncé can do it while being married with children, than so can I.
When you sit back and think about it, what drive us? What causes us to feel like what we have is never enough and causes us to want more? Is it our upbringing or is it because success has been withheld from us for so long that when we do get a taste of it, we want more?
I often wonder that when I do achieve a certain level of success, will I finally be able sit back and enjoy it or will it drive me to work harder? I don’t know if“it” will ever be enough for black women and I’m fine with that. It shows the world that we aren’t going to to just settle for whatever “it” tries to give us.